#011 Self love
Welcome to episode 11 of Intuitive Life and Business Sparks podcast!
Todays topic is self-love. A lot of people talk about self-love and sometimes it’s misunderstood as self-care. And I just recently listened to a podcast, where it’s been wonderfully explained, the difference between self-love and self-care.
Self care are all the things you treat yourself with, material things: manicure, pedicure, massage, whatever, in order to maybe feel better or give yourself a treat.
Self love is completely different. It’s something inside yourself. It’s something only you yourself can give. And it’s a lot more immaterial, it’s it’s connected to your inner being and to realizing how unique how wonderful and how worthy you yourself are.
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What reminds me most when I am talking about self love is the poem by Charlie Chaplin which he read on his 70th birthday and I would like to read this to you-
This is how it goes:
As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth.
Today I know this is authenticity.
As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody, if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me.
Today I call it respect.
As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that’s around me was inviting me to grow.
Today I call it maturity.
As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exact right movement. So I could be calm.
Today I call it self confidence.
As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future.
Today I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make me my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm.
Today I call it simplicity.
As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself.
At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism.
Today I know it is love of oneself.
As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time.
Today I discovered that that is modesty.
As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future.
Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening.
Today I live in each day, day by day, and I call it fulfillment.
As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart my mind became a valuable ally.
Today I called his connection wisdom of the heart.
We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born.
Today I know that is life.
Written by Charlie Chaplin.
I love this poem, and every time I read it. It is surprising, I find out new parts, and new things speak to me.
Self love is not a switch with you can turn on, in a click, and then it’s turned on or off. Self love is a daily training of standing in your own truth, in your own power, at this very moment, and being extremely honest with yourself, taking full responsibility for your own life, and doing that from a point of connection, gratitude and strength.
Life to be lived
And I know the days, the circumstances, life has its challenges. And it’s a daily practice to keep this inner connection, this heart connection, this self love, to grow from there without fighting, without running away or freezing without making it a battle.
Your heart knows
It is this calm, knowing inner part of you, which helps you to navigate in everyday life. And it’s a practice. There are some tools out there to practice it, be at the journal, be it a morning ritual or evening ritual. Whatever you do, try to find your own way of self love and connection. And let it be consistent. Allow yourself to check in with yourself daily, and to love yourself more everyday.
Be surprised how your life can change when you start to truly love yourself more and more. Have a wonderful day!